Hey there,
When you first start something that you’ve never taken a chance on before, people are going to judge you. It’s a fact, and there’s no way around it. It’s human nature, and even I’m guilty of it. Those closest to you will especially judge you. Sometimes it comes from a place of caring, and sometimes it comes from a covetous place. They will tell you all the reasons you’re crazy for doing it or why it will never work. When people are supposed to be championing you, they are talking shit behind your back. This I know from experience, but I’m sure others can relate. You want to start your own business and your dad tells you there’s no way you’ll make any money in what you’re doing. You take up a new hobby such as running, and the “athletic” people in your family whisper behind closed doors. She’s too fat to run. She can’t even run a sub-30 5k. Jumping off the cliff for a dream or opportunity is heavily frowned upon in our society. People say: be comfortable, choose security and guaranteed stability, work for the man, don’t set your expectations for yourself too high. Clock in 9-5, be miserable and deal with it; that’s just the way life is. But it doesn’t have to be. You can go out, chase your dreams, and turn your fantasy life into a reality. It takes grit; but it can happen. It can sometimes feel like the only ones championing you are the complete strangers on the sidelines of that marathon you’re running, the potential new clients or investors who are excited about your new product or business venture, or the social media influencers commenting and liking posts about your successes. Those are your people. Hang on to them.
Why are the strangers your people? Shouldn’t it be the other way around? Your close buds and fam tooting your horn and popping the champagne every time you do something cool should be the standard. They should spectate your marathon, promote your business, and read and share your blog posts every chance they get. But some don’t. And that’s frustrating and ANNOYING! But do you know what’s even more annoying? You.
When you start to dip into small successes, certain people will view this as a personal attack on them. The whole
“there’s only so much success to go around” thing. People see you thriving and internalize it and it magnifies their biggest insecurities. People don’t have room to be happy for you. They only have room to judge what you’re doing. The hard work and energy you put into your own successes make it seem like they aren’t doing enough. And the incessant posting and talking about it is annoying to them. While that may be true; who cares? It’s your life and you can choose to do it and share it any way you please, even if it’s over the top and extremely annoying. I know I’ve found people annoying when all they do is post their workouts, or their daily routines. But then I got to the root of WHY it was annoying. It had everything to do with me, and nothing to do with them. I wasn’t working out. I didn’t have a consistent healthy daily routine, and that bothered me. So instead of being bitter about it, I let it inspire me. I changed some things in my life. I analyzed what I was actually doing with my time vs. what I wanted to be doing. And I made slow changes, and became annoying myself.
For instance, I love writing so much. It’s so much fun. It’s relaxing. It’s an outlet. It’s always been a hobby, and now it’s turning semi-professional. I wish I had more time to do it though. It’s always a little bit hard when you have a child who constantly wants to talk to you. I can’t understand how people with multiple children do it. Kudos to you guys; because F that. I don’t think I could do it. My brain would literally explode. I love my child dearly, but one is enough for me. I’m self-aware enough to know that I can’t bring another child into this world. I would lose my mind. My brain already gets so overstimulated when she’s talking to me, and the t.v. is on, and the dog barks. Anyway, back to having more time. Having that mindset has me up for failure. I’m victimizing myself. Poor me, I don’t have enough time. Bullshit. There’s time, you just have to use it wisely and prioritize things that are actually important to you. We all get the same 24 hours. Bill Gates gets the same 24 hours as you. Taylor Swift gets the same 24 hours as you. Adam Sandler gets the same 24 hours as you. The difference is; they spend their time differently than you. People don’t rise to success because they sleep until noon, doom scroll for hours, watch movies, eat junk, then repeat. They get up at 4 in the morning even though that’s hard. They jump at opportunities, they put themselves out there, and they don’t quit- even when they fail or get criticized. They don’t quit because people think they’re annoying. They keep going and don’t look back.
Look at how many people like to hate on Taylor Swift. They say she’s trash, can’t sing, man-eater, and the list goes on. But does that stop her? Does the negativity from people who don’t even know her stop her? No. She keeps showing up everyday and doing what she loves. Because fuck them. They don’t matter, and instead of using their time scrolling and writing negative things about her; maybe they should go workout, or write that paper, or pursue that dream of theirs. But they don’t. They smash on other’s success instead because then they don’t have to address the faults in their own life. So yeah, Taylor Swift is fucking annoying to the people who dislike her. I love Taylor Swift by the way, so that’s not a dig. It’s a compliment about the fact that she doesn’t let the dickhead people slow her down or quiet her voice. It actually makes her more “annoying” because she’ll write a damn song about you. Don’t fuck with her, and don’t fuck with us Swifties okay. Be loud. Do what you love. And be fucking annoying!
I’m sure when I started my running endeavors and posted it all over social media it was annoying. But I didn’t care. I wanted to share this cool new endeavor I was embarking on because I was impressed with myself and also wanted to motivate people who might think they can’t do it. You can by the way. I maintain that if I can run; anyone can (considering you have working legs, I understand there are different abilities and medical conditions, etc.). I went from never running, to running a 5k, to running a half-marathon, to running a full ass marathon all in 365 days. Trust me- you can do it. And you can be annoying about it and post your journey wherever the hell you want. And you can buy yourself cool running gear and sing and dance while you run, and people can shut the hell up. While they’re sitting there judging you, they’re not running; so you’re automatically doing more than them. And it’s annoying them.
I debated even starting a blog or posting my thoughts online for fear of judgement. I was worried people might think differently of me, or just plain talk shit. Which some do, and they can. That’s their right. But I made the conscious decision to not let it bother me anymore. I’m out here doing it, and I’m being annoying. As I should. Life is so short, so why would I spend all my time living my life in this gated off world avoiding other people’s judgements? So I’m here. I’m out here on the internet sharing my random thoughts and weird things with everyone. Because that’s what I want to do. I want to share my story. I want to motivate or inspire people. I want to get all this crap out of my brain every once in a while. I want to be freaking ANNOYING! That’s all for now.
Talk soon,
Corrah
